Normally, I would say it’s unprofessional to discuss with family, especially with parents about your business. But it is fine if you are making your father as a mentor or you should definitely not do it. I would explain you why.
We have lived in life by getting support of parent for long. We attend school, university and other vocational classes by financial support of parents. Some may get job by their parent helping too. Then when getting problem with jobs, do you think it is still good to discuss with your parents? For me, I wouldn’t. I have the following two reasons.
Parents know few things about new generation
Your parents were born in 1940s. Even though they passed the decade, their catching up skill got slow after 50 years old. They may not know about IT too much. They may not know about modern technology and so on. If you are trying to discuss about your newly produced software with your parents, I believe they wouldn’t be able to advice you in technical perspective
Parents want to live in peace
This is the most important thing I want to say. Your parents are getting old and have lived in life with lots of worries. It is better if you don’t disturb them with your business problems. Just treat them and repay the debts by making them comfortable in life. You may not know it if you have habit of sharing your problems with your parents. Just you should try to feel like you were your parents and you will know how it is so difficult to bear. They will get worry for you all the time if you shared about your job problem. They will not be able to live in life in peace if they are getting worry for you.
But why some parents want you to share
Yes. There are also some parents who want you to share about your problems and business with them. Actually it means that they don’t believe that you can stand in life by yourself. Can you feel it? Just try to feel if you didn’t get advice and suggestion from your parents? Can’t or can you? Then you will see the answer. As you are getting advice from your parents always, you will not get success in absent of your parents. It also means you are nothing if you have no parents’ advice. So then you need to try to make them believe you that you have confidence to do a business or to work and you have confidence to live in life without anyone else’s suggestion. Be an independent person.
When you should get advice from your parents
I don’t mean you not to get advice and suggestion from your parents for the life. There you may have some condition to get advice. They are such as how to get out of comfort zone, how to get avoid stuck in middle of somewhere, how to solve the problems by patience and so as, which are psychological advice. You can get inspiration and psychological advice from parents. You need not to share your detail problem in the condition. You just need to tell the backbone of the problem. For example, when you get worry for losing your share, you can ask your parent how to get rid of being worry. If you get the problem in jobs due to lack of your communication skill, you can ask your parent how to improve communication skill and his experiences in the past.
Then your parent will be happy with you. In conclusion, you should not talk about your business to your parent except getting inspirations and knowledge from them.
Author: Aung Kham